Today I got advice from a man who's significantly older than me, but still young at heart. He was telling us the story of how he had first gotten with his late wife when they were teens. The story consisted of her coming out for the date, him telling her that she had ten minutes to take off all of her makeup, and then them going out to a pool party and dancing on top of the high dive diving board. It was probably the sweetest story that I've heard in awhile. However, he told me that when I meet the right person for me, I'll just know. He also said "when you find a guy that makes you feel like a princess, nab him". Little did he know, that I've had a guy who made me feel like a princess. It didn't work out at all, but that's okay.
Right now, I'm searching for something stronger than a princess. I think I've known that I'm a princess for quite a while now, so I feel like one on the daily. In my humble opinion, I think I'm searching for someone who makes me feel wanted, valued, and loved. It's so important to know your worth to someone, without having to constantly tell yourself that you are, in fact, important to that person. Man, the constant reminder to yourself gets EXHAUSTING. The sad part about it is that we, as girls, settle for whatever we can get. "Oh, he's gotta care about me because he called me pretty the other day" Or "Oh, he bought me a meal, so that obviously means he cares." These are all real things I've had to tell myself when being around a guy.
You know what Christ says about that? Ha. Well, he says in Proverbs 4:23 to "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Having to convince yourself that another human cares about you is definitely not a way to guard that thing. Also, in one of my favorite verses, he says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 a little something about love, which doesn't consist of constant personal reassurance. He says "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
At the end of the day, being called and feeling like a princess is nice, but it's even better to feel loved. It's going to be great to be with someone who is patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, and not proud. I want someone who does not dishonor others, is not self seeking, is not easily angered, and doesn't hold a grudge against me because I mess up all the time . I want someone who protects, trusts, and hopes. So maybe through that, I'll feel like a princess. However, I think love is essentially the feeling that will surround me when I find whoever it is.
I hope you have a blessed week :)
Emma Jane
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